One of the easiest ways to look unattractive to the opposite sex is to have a serious face on. All too often when I go out at night I notice guys who look, almost, mad at the bar. As if they want to fight someone or as if they’ve just been insulted by someone. Now, I know there is such a thing as an angry drunk, but for the most part these guys look sober. So what’s their issue?
There problem is that they don’t know how to lighten up! They think that they have to always pretend to be this cool, serious, or tough kind of guy at the bar, and that women are attracted to this sort of individual. Well, I’m here to say that these guys are absolutely, terribly mistaken!
Women hate these guys. They are boring and unattractive. Nobody wants to hang around with these serious guys who show little to no iota of a personality. Women hate stoic expressions! They want lively, energetic, and happy expressions; not serious, uninviting, and cold mannerisms.
I always think to myself “Why so serious?” when I see these types of guys out at night. I can’t help but think of the Joker and his famous sentiment. And I wish these guys would think of it too. There’s just no reason for it.
I used to actually be like these guys too once. I didn’t know how to be fun and outgoing when I went out so I reverted into acting stoically. This was my go-to mode. Whenever I was standing around and trying to be cool, I would put my serious, indifferent face on and try to look cool. I thought this would work for attracting women. Looking back now though, it never did!
I am so glad I don’t do this anymore.
Sometimes I’ll go out with some friends, and every once in a while one of them will end up falling into this trap. They’ll be content with being boring and being too serious for the night. I will often have to snap them back to reality and tell them to “Lighten up!” This will usually do the trick and my friend will start being more fun and having a better time. (The same of course goes for me if I’m not having fun and being boring or too serious; I always tell them to let me know if this is the case, and then I immediately change my behavior.)
If you want to start being more fun when you go out just try being more playful and goofier. You don’t always have to be a cool, quiet guy. These guys rarely get the girls! Instead be the fun, playful, flirty guy who enjoys himself and enjoys his friends. Tell jokes, laugh, be loud, be outgoing, and be goofy. Do a silly dance on the dance floor, make fun of yourself and your friends, and stop worrying about what others are thinking. Just live in the moment and have fun!
So next time you go out, think of the words of the Caped Crusader’s arch-nemesis, “Why so serious?” Just lighten up!
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