When going out at night it can be tricky to find the right environment to both meet women and have a great time. Some think that a nightclub is the perfect venue, though I disagree. Others think their favorite dive-bar down the street is ideal, again I beg to differ. Yes, the best night-life environment requires a little more zest than what both of these places have to offer.
Before I reveal the perfect place to go at night I want to discuss the places that aren’t so great for meeting women, and at the very least, having a good time. Let’s discuss the infamous nightclub first. Now don’t get me wrong, nightclubs can be a fun time; if you go with the right people, if you go on a good night, and…if you are completely trashed or high off something that your buddy snagged off his stoner-friend down the street. You know, the one who showers like once a year!
Yeah these places are notoriously awful for meeting women. 90% of the women in there are under the influence of some narcotic, whether something mild like alcohol, or something more serious like ecstasy. I’m not sure about you, but the odds of having a good, exciting, and or stimulating conversation from a woman here are pretty much slim next to none. Not to mention nightclubs (for the most part anyway) tend to be obnoxiously loud. Most times you have to scream your words out even if someone is standing right next to you; or just yell in that person’s ear, creating a thunderous trauma to that person’s tiny little cochlea (an inner part of the ear), and vice versa. Plainly put, clubs just suck for meeting women!
Now for the dive bar: Dive bars are great for grabbing a couple of beers with your buddies for say a guys’ night out or a “Bro Night.” In these cases it’s cool to just hang out at the local tavern and sip on some cold ones all night. However, if this is your place to go for meeting women, then think about changing it up! Most women don’t go to these places, or if they do, it’s the same-old local women who are not interested in you, or who you’re not interested in. Clearly the man to woman equation just doesn’t add up in this situation. My advice, “carpe diem” or actually “carpe noctem” in this case; stop wasting your time and seize the moment by going to places that you know are better!
So the 5 rules for picking a good bar are:
1. Pick a Bar With Things to Do
A lot of bars are missing this part. A lot of bars want to cater to a younger crowd, but yet they offer nothing fun or exciting for the people who go there to do. Instead it’s just a regular, and often boring large bar top with some TVs and music. Bars that have pool tables, karaoke, arcade games, bull-riding, an event/show, beer-pong, and any type of other activity are so much more appealing. These are the places where you get to interact with women and actually participate in something rather than just standing or sitting around all night doing nothing!
2. Pick a Bar That Has a Lot of Women
This may, and actually should, be obvious at this point in the article, but I figured I’d hammer home the point anyway. Go to places that have a lot of quality women! These are the places that will give you the best chance of meeting one of these women! No more dive-bars and no more reckless nightclub nights.
3. Pick a Bar That Has Different Areas Within It
These bars are very good for a number of reasons. Usually these places are pretty big and just like the first example, in these venues, there is more to do. You (or anyone) for that matter doesn’t want to stay in the same room for hours upon hours all night. You want to be able to walk around and check out different areas. If one side is a little boring or slow it’s good to be able to walk to another part and see how that is. Also, it’s great in these places because when you do meet a woman, you can move around with her and it’s easier to get more comfortable with her this way. You can lead her around the bar and it makes it easier to escalate this way.
4. Pick a Bar With Good Music and a Dance Floor
This is a must in all great bars. Most bars will have some type of music. But great bars have great music, and always a place to dance. Great music doesn’t have to necessarily be music you love; it just has to be music that is good for dancing and having fun. And a dance floor doesn’t have to be huge, but it should be big enough so that when people start dancing, you have space to move around a bit. In other words, it should be big enough for the amount of people allotted in that bar at any given time.
5. Pick a Bar That Has a Place to Go Outside
Similar to number three, this is important for geographical areas that get warm in the summer. Being able to go outside when it’s nice out, on a warm summer night is awesome. A lot of women like to hang outside when the weather is nice, and it’s often a great area of the bar to strike up a good conversation (not too loud, away from some of the craziness, etc.). Here you can actually get to know someone pretty easily, and if you’re at a great bar, you can tell them to come dancing with you on the dance floor!
So next time you want to go out for a night with your friends and you’re thinking about where to go, remember these 5 rules. It may be a little tricky to find a really good bar to go to at first, but they are certainly out there, so keep your eyes open. When you do find one, think about what makes it fun and think about what you can do there to have more success with women. Also, if you have any other ideas about what makes a bar great please share them below! Now go out and enjoy your night!
Tomas Killington says
My wife and I have recently moved to a new town. We would really like to meet new people, but we’re not sure which bar we should go to. I didn’t realize choosing a bar that has an outside area can make it even easier to meet somebody because of the more relaxed environment. I’ll be sure to remember this consideration moving forward.
Vivian Black says
I love that you talked about picking a bar that has things to do besides just TV and music. My husband and I are looking for a happy hour bar where we are vacationing that can allow us to have even more fun. We will keep these tips in mind as we search for a professional that can help us best.