It pays to be persistent, quite literally. Most employers won’t give you an interview until after you’ve called three, four, five, or even more times! It’s only until they get annoyed from having to deal with you on the phone that they reluctantly set up an interview with you!
Persistence also pays off when learning a new skill such as driving a car. Virtually no one can pick-up the art of driving after just one attempt. If we all gave up after the first few attempts of successfully operating behind the wheel, we’d have a nation of walkers! (Maybe that would actually be a good thing though!) Nobody would ever learn how to drive because it takes many mess-ups, much time, and even “accidents” before truly getting good.
So in this case, being persistent is great. In fact you need to be persistent. But what about in other areas of life? What happens when you are persistent in say, pursuing a girl? Does it pay off in this case, or does it spoil your efforts?
Let’s take a look.
There is a fine-line between persisting and pestering. The latter can disguise itself or seem to be as dreadful as: annoyance, stalking, or harassment. This is something you clearly want to avoid!
It’s one thing to keep treading forward when a girl you like shows interest but seems to be “playing” hard to get. She may flirt with you and enjoy your company, but may always seem to be adrift when it comes to getting together on some sort of date. In this case, persistence is great. It will take time, but being determined and unwavering in your attempts to get her to go out with you, if done right, will pay off!
It will pay off because women actually admire a guy who stands by his convictions. Even if she keeps saying “I’m busy” or “Not this week” or “Maybe soon, just not now” she will have a high regard for the man who can keep trying and not give up on his efforts. A guy who can keep his cool amidst all the negative responses will soon be a guy who stands out from all the other guys who give up too easily and too soon.
Being unrelenting in this case certainly works to your advantage with women.
However, if a woman is not eager to hang out with you, nor does she seem eager to even chat with you or spend time with you, forget the persistence altogether! These are the women who are not interested in you for whatever reason and the women who you will be pestering.
It’s much better instead to focus your efforts and energy on someone else, both for your own sake and hers. When she says she is not interested and her actions, body language, and tone of voice support what she’s saying, listen to her! Forget about being persistent and move on to someone else.
Persistence is often great in life. In many areas it pays off. It can help you out greatly in your dating life too; just remember to apply it wisely. Sometimes you can use it to your advantage, but other times it’s best to move on and preserve your energy for something else!