In this day and age you have to know how to text. Texting has become so important to the daily communication of all sorts of information. From work, to family, to friends, and even potential dates; we all text. For a guy who just gets a woman’s phone number, he has to know what to say even before he turns on his phone…
That’s why you must have a plan!
You have to think of exactly what you want to accomplish before you text a woman. You should not aimlessly text women thinking that you can “wing it” or just hope something magically happens. This is where you run into trouble.
Instead, think of everything in advance.
Come up with a sole objective of the text. Do you want to set up a date? Do you want to flirt and build attraction? Do you want to connect and create rapport? Or, do you want to be bold and maybe even get a “sext”? No matter what it is, you must decide what it is you want!
If you don’t, you run the gambit of sending boring, uninteresting, non-compelling messages, that do nothing to further your desires. In other words, you will be communicating and shooting from the hip, with no target in mind. That’s why you won’t get what you want.
A few things to keep in mind when you do decide what your texting goal is are:
Keeping it short and sweet
Once an objective has been set, keep it short and sweet. You do not have to try to do anything other than what you want. Some guys think they have to keep texting a woman, even after they accomplish what they wanted to in their earlier texts. By doing this you only complicate things and can actually spoil whatever you have done right so far. So after achieving your texting goal, politely stop texting her until you come up with your next goal, later on.
Going over any possible things she might say
It’s good to go over some of the hypothetical responses she may send you. These might include some objections she may have to hanging out with you or the direction the conversation may head when you text her certain things. Be aware of the way you communicate and what she may be getting out of the text. Remember, a text can be read multiple ways and interpreted a thousand more ways. It’s not like talking to someone in person where you know exactly what they mean when they say something.
Using background information that you may have
It’s always good to use as much information as possible when planning a text. The more information you have the better your chances for success when texting her. If you know her schedule for instance, you should try to plan around this. So instead of asking her out on a date on the days she typically works, say that you’re busy on those days she works, and that her off day(s) work best for you. This way, assuming your goal is to get together with her, she will be much more inclined to say “yes” and tell you that those days work great for her too. It’s little things like this that really make a difference and give you a great chance at capitalizing on having her phone number.
Texting her on the day you two are getting together
If and when you do set up a date with her, you always want to text her on the day you are supposed to hang out. As early as possible, so that you do not have her questioning, doubting, and then even changing her mind about seeing you; because if you wait until say 1 hour before the scheduled date, to text a woman about the date still being on, she will not go!
You have to text her much further in advance and let her know that you are still going. So if you are hanging out with her at say 6pm (or later), a morning or noontime text is best. If you are getting together with her at noontime for lunch or coffee, an early morning text is best, if not a before-bed text, the night before. This confirms to her that you’re still in, and will confirm to you whether she is or not. By following these tips, more times than not, she will be in!
If you stick to having a great plan which includes: keeping things simple, going over some possible responses, using background information, and maintaining a great level of game (which allowed you to get her number in the first place), you will have a lot of success. Being effective in texting a woman usually comes down to recognizing exactly what you mean to accomplish, and then sticking to that goal. At the end of the day a woman wants to meet a great guy just as much as a guy wants to meet a great woman. So it’s really not that difficult to amalgamate texting into real-life interactions.
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