Have you ever learned something new and thought that you had understood it pretty well, only to realize later on that you really didn’t comprehend it at all? Did you try to implement some of the foreign ideas and then figure out that you were way off on what you were trying to do? I’m sure you have, because I do it all the time, and it is very common in society. This happens all the time in everyday life and all the time in game as well.
We try to learn all sorts of new and challenging concepts throughout our lifetime. Whether we are studying a new language, learning intricate mathematics, playing an instrument, or learning about how to successfully date women; it takes time and effort to get good.
A lot of guys just learning game, read all sorts of great techniques for meeting and attracting women. These guys will “know” the ins and outs of the method, and could recite every step backwards and forwards if you asked them to. However, when it comes time to implementing these newfound ideas, it usually doesn’t work for them. It almost always goes completely opposite of the way they intended it to. They wonder why it doesn’t work, but don’t get hung up too long on their inquiries, and soon discard them altogether. And they are left experimenting with other methods, as they conclude that the ones they have tried do not work.
The truth is that most of these great techniques for meeting and attracting women do work. They have a track-record of success with thousands if not millions of guys. The only difference in the guys who find success, and the guys who don’t, is that the successful guys keep trying out the technique, and give it a fair shot. The guy’s who label it a failure after trying it only once, are the same guys who never figure it out. Like I mentioned earlier, it takes time to get good at things. What these guy’s looking to find success could use, is a good deal of calibration.
Calibration, in game, is the ability to precisely figure out what you are doing wrong and fix it. It’s similar to its actual definition by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary: “Calibrate-to adjust or mark (something, such as a measuring device) so that it can be used in an accurate and exact way.” What you are doing, when it comes to your game, is “adjusting” and altering your approach so that it is more “accurate” and “exact.”
See the problem with a lot of guys is that they “think” they have comprehended what they just learned from some dating coach online. But they really didn’t get it, and tried to implement a technique that wasn’t truly the same technique that the coach had discussed. Instead it was missing bits and pieces of the entire concept. When it was regurgitated, it inevitably failed, and rather than adjusting, and trying to alter what they were doing, these guys caved, and threw in the towel on their attempts.
Calibration is one of the most important things when learning game. It separates the successful guys, with the guys who are lonely and upset every Friday and Saturday night. If you can calibrate what you do; figure out that you might being doing something wrong, and then turn it around and fix it, you’re ability to attract women will grow exponentially.
It’s not as hard as you may think to start calibrating your game more. If you believe an idea to be good, meaning it sticks out, and truly feels like a good idea in your gut, then it probably is. If you try to then implement it, and it doesn’t work, rethink your approach, figure out what you may be doing or saying wrong, and then try it again. Keep trying it, and eventually you will start to see that it works. It takes a while to get good at something, and even longer to master it, but with calibration on your side, you will have a faster approach to success.