One of the most important shifts you can make when meeting women is to develop a fearless attitude with yourself. This carefree spirit can actually be the lynchpin for unbelievable success.
When I first started out, I had the opposite of a fearless attitude when it came to my dating life however. I worried about everything that came up. I worried about every little thing I was doing, and by worrying so much, I ended up doing terrible with women. I was basically creating a self-fulfilling prophecy by always focusing on things I was doing wrong and things that were not working. It was as if The Law of Attraction was at its finest, working against me, and my efforts with women.
Things ironically shifted for me however when I started to re-focus my energy and stopped worrying so much about my mistakes. I actually started to care less and less about what I was messing up in and believe it or not, this actually benefitted me and propelled me into a far greater arena of success.
Just by developing this mindset, of not worrying so much about what you are doing wrong (or even right for that matter), you become more attractive in the eyes of women. You display so much value when you can demonstrate to a woman that you are comfortable being yourself and comfortable messing up and looking like a fool from time to time. By being okay with this, you show women that you are very confident in who you are.
You also demonstrate that you are an attractive guy. Confidence in a guy is perhaps the greatest attraction switch you can turn on in a woman. They LOVE confidence!
So instead of worrying so much about all your failures and all your mistakes, and feeling bad about not being where you are in your dating life, start trying to flip your negative mindset around.
Look at your “rejections” as lessons to learn from. Look at your “failures” as successes. Start taking every experience you have, and building upon that. When you can start thinking of these rejections and failures as actually being a “good” thing, you can then start to embrace the challenges that life has to offer. When it comes to women, and the challenges they bring, you will have a new vigor and excitement to be successful with them!
Try to push yourself and try to expand your comfort zone. Say crazy, bold things that you normally wouldn’t say! Do fun and outrageous things that you always wanted to try but never really had the guts to do before! Push yourself to the limits and enjoy life to the fullest.
Stop worrying about what others think and stop worrying about failing, especially when it comes to your dating life. By doing this, you will soon realize that you really are so much better off taking this approach. Things just start to click and work out for the better when you let life take its due course and stop trying to always be perfect. When you become fearless, you can do anything!