Attention men!

If you’ve been searching for the best first date tips ever assembled, you’ve come to the right place!

If you are actively meeting and dating women, or looking to find someone special, you must get your dating practices down pat. And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates.

First dates are often boring, awkward, unexciting, and even torturous to many men.

Guys build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact. Too much pressure, too little chemistry, not enough fun, not enough attraction, nothing accomplished—all of these disappointments crush men in their pursuit of love.

You see, most guys have zero idea about what to do on a first date. They don’t know where to go, what to say, how to act, and most importantly, they don’t know how to set up a second date!

Yes, all is lost by the end of most first dates, and there is little hope for men to correct these issues . . . Until now!

The following is a list of 40 of the best first date tips ever assembled—from some of the greatest dating coaches, relationship coaches, matchmakers, lifestyle coaches, and social experts on the planet! Take their tips and their advice and really soak them in. Many of these professionals have been helping men just like you for years and years; so believe in what they say.

Follow their steps, and your next first date will go great!

And yes, it may be your last first date.

P.S. Make sure you read ALL of these tips! It’s not enough to skip around. You really have to check out each tip and truly take in what each expert is saying!

And… make sure you check out the awesome infographic at the very end of the post when you’re finished. It has some incredibly interesting fact about first dates!

Susan Winter

1. Know why you’re dating

Take a moment to do your mental preparation before you meet your date. Why are you
dating? What’s your end-goal? Are you ready for a committed relationship or dating for fun?
Knowing the answer to these questions allows you to engage in a manner consistent with your
desires. When your intentions are clear, your meeting will be purposeful.

2. Show up as yourself

Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and
sets the wrong tone for future interactions. It’s a game that can’t be maintained and
guarantees dissatisfaction for both parties. The goal of dating is to find someone who wants
what you want, and wants that with you. That’s only possible by starting with the ‘real you.’

3. Have fun

Make up your mind, in advance, to have fun. Dating is a numbers game. Every time you meet
someone new, you’re gaining vital information as to what you want (and don’t want) in a
partner. No matter the outcome, this attitude allows you to walk away with a gain you can
keep.

Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) is a bestselling author and relationship expert specializing in today’s evolving forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. Check out her site: susanwinter.net

Alan Roger Currie

My Top 10 First Date Tips:

10. Bathe or shower within three hours before your date;
9. Make sure you are well groomed;
8. Take some breath mints with you;
7. Spray some high quality cologne on yourself;
6. Do not go to a movie theater or a music concert on a first date; save those types of events for a second, third, or fourth date;
5. Do not become excessively flattering toward a woman on a first date;
4. Never spend more than approximately $25.00 on a woman for your very first date with her;
3. Ideally, you should engage in at least one lengthy (thirty minutes minimum) phone conversation with a woman prior to your first formal ‘date’ with her;
2. Never invite a woman on a formal ‘date’ if all you are looking to do is engage in one or more episodes of short-term and/or non-monogamous ‘casual’ sex with her. Just hook up with that woman and have sex with her;
1. Similar to #2, never discuss any subject matter on a ‘first date’ that is not relevant to helping you determine if the woman you are on the date with is ‘long-term girlfriend material.’

Alan Roger Currie is a professional dating coach and author of ‘Mode One: Let the Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking’ and ‘Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex’. For more information, visit Currie’s Wikipedia.org page or his website, directapproachdating.com

Laura Yates

The magic word ‘why’ is a useful one to remember!

Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.

Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. Ideally ones that are interesting or funny! And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves. The conversation will flow easier and far more naturally if you really listen instead of thinking ahead of yourself for the next thing to say!

Laura is a dating and lifestyle coach, writer and speaker specializing in helping guys see the better side of break-ups and heartbreak. Check out her website laurayates.org

Kezia Noble

Here are 5 things you should never say on a first date:

1. “I hope you like where I chose.”

Women want to be with a guy who has a sense of certainty in what he does and in what choices he makes. If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question. Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, AGAIN, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner. Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either. If she doesn’t like your choice of venue, then make up for it in the interaction. If the venue is more important to her than spending time with you, she’s not a keeper.

2. “I feel nervous.”

Awww, how cute, but with that line, you may have just sentenced yourself to the dreaded “friend zone”. Telling a girl how nervous you are is not going to make her attracted to you, of course she will feel sorry for you, and she will be extra ‘nice’ to you throughout the date, but don’t think for a second any of that means anything more than her display of sympathy for you. Pity is not a strong foundation to build attraction on.

3. “I want to know everything about you.”

Even for the most talkative of women, this can feel a little overwhelming. Although you might think it’s a great way to get her to open up and that it will give her the impression that you really want to get to know the REAL her (unlike all the other guys), it usually just ends up as an awkward one-way conversation. Do you really want to hear all the grizzly details of her past relationships or how she cut herself when she was shaving her legs earlier that day? Women like to create a sense of mystery, and you should be conveying this yourself, too. Let the conversation flow, and let her reveal the hidden sides to her personality by gently provoking or challenging her, rather than making huge demands on her.

4. “We should do this again sometime.”

Two words: weak and generic. It lacks excitement and shouts uncertainty. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”. Example: During the date, when you feel it’s going well, say to her playfully: “Next time we have dinner, you order the wine,” or “Next time we meet, when we see a movie, I bet you’ll talk all the way through it.” As you can tell, these examples have a playful undertone to them, but most importantly, they are PRESUMING that there will be another date without a flimsy question dangling at the end of it.

5. “You look really nice tonight.”

Any vague or generic compliments need to be abolished from the conversation. We use the word “nice” when describing something we have no real passion for, such as a “nice cup of tea.” Think about things you adore, that excite you or inspire you and then see if the word “nice” can articulate those emotions. Replace the word “nice”, “lovely” or even “pretty” with something more dynamic and that focuses on a more detailed attribute of hers. Example: “I really like the fact you have good taste in shoes, you can tell a lot about a woman who makes that extra effort” or “the way you’ve done your makeup is really striking.” Now, these might sound a little too detailed or might put you out of your comfort zone, but she will respond to those kinds of thoughtful and unique compliments a lot better than “your hair looks nice.”

Kezia Noble is the Founder and CEO of Kezia Noble Ltd. Kezia is the UK’s best dating coach for men. She has published a bestselling book entitled the “Noble Art Of Seducing Women” and is a regular newspaper and magazine columnist. She also frequently appears as a guest expert on TV shows across the globe.

Kevin Alexander

When Justin asked me to write out some tips for guys going on first dates, I had to stop and think about my own life.

I’m about to go on a first date tonight with a sexy, intelligent, confident woman. I’m excited about it, and as I prepare for it, I want to share the experience and wisdom with you.

First and foremost, be flexible and make time for a first date. I’m a busy guy. So busy she’s the one girl I’m choosing to go out with this week. In making time for her with both of our schedules, it allows us to have that crucial first meeting sooner than later.

The first date is important, so make sure you can make time for her, and schedule in an hour with her using a connection building activity. First dates shouldn’t cost much money, if any, at all. Since she and I can’t meet until later tonight, we’re grabbing drinks, and when it comes to drinks my rule is no more than 2 drinks to keep both time and money in check.
Last, but not least, kiss her when it feels right.

Kevin Alexander helps shy, introverted nice guys finish first with women via the Nice Guy Dating Daily Podcast and blog at niceguydating.ca. His brash, brutally honest yet approachable and comedic style keeps you entertained and informed about how to handle everything from dating to charm to fashion to exercise, making sure you finish first with women. When not on his podcast, you can find him guest blogging on sites such as Digital Romance Inc, SWExperts, and TSB Magazine.

The Single Dating Diva

The secret to a great first date is to not give a damn.

Go in being confident in who you are and what you have to offer the other person. It makes it easier to put your best foot forward and make a good impression. This means looking well put together, being a gentleman, having interesting topics of conversation ready and paying attention to your body language.

First dates are about finding common ground and figuring out if you want to get to know this person more. The best way to do this is by being true to yourself and not pretending to be someone you’re not. Also, great first dates don’t have to be expensive. For example, grabbing a coffee and exploring a new neighborhood gives you things to talk about and is less stressful than sitting face to face. If you had a good time and want to see them again tell them and follow up with a plan. If you don’t, then thank them and move on. Ghosting is NOT allowed! Dating CAN be fun, it’s all about perspective!

Suzie is the founder of SingleDatingDiva.com, an award winning blog about being single, dating and relationships. She also co-hosts the SexLoveChat Podcast and Twitter chat discussing current topics about sex and love. You can also find Suzie as a guest expert on various television and radio programs.

April Davis

My 3 first date tips are:

1. Stay away from the same old same old

Do an activity date that’s totally different – Try bumper cars, an archery or shooting range (most provide equipment), roller derby, etc. A little competition is healthy and fun. Just don’t shoot yourself in the foot (literally or figuratively).

2. Manage your mindset

Remind yourself that a bad first date is not the end of the world. If it really is that bad, it’ll make for a funny story to tell your friends later on! Remember this isn’t a job interview where you only have one shot to make a good impression. Keeping your nerves at bay will help you enjoy the night and show your best qualities. Positive self talk is your friend.

3. Pay if you want another day

As much as times and gender roles have changed, they’ve really stayed the same. If you want to see her again, you have to pick up the tab. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do and you wouldn’t believe how many guys try to see a lady again after making her pay or split the bill. You’ll look lame and cheap if you don’t.

April Davis is a Matchmaker and Founder of Cupid’s Cronies Matchmakers. Cupid’s Cronies is an upscale boutique matchmaking service for Executives and Professionals specializing in not only introducing matches, but also helping clients to attract and retain the relationship.

Hunt Ethridge

What is a date supposed to be?

FUN! Right, we forget about that! First dates are supposed to be light and casual and fun and exciting. But many times we forget this and fall back on our “dating interview” actions. Sooooo…. not fun and emotional.

So a few tips for your first dates:

1. Keep it short.

This is to find out if you have chemistry. Leave it on a high note with both sides wanting to see each other again. I’ve seen too many run out of steam when they go too long.

2. Afternoon, not evening.

If you meet at night, she’ll be wondering “Is he going to invite me home with him” or you might be thinking “should I invite her home with me.” This can cause anxiety that has no reason to exist. Remove that anxiety by meeting in the afternoon. I like coffee dates.

3. Ask positive emotional questions.

We all hate the “WhereareyoufromWhatdoyoudoWhere’dyougrowup?” questions. All logic, no emotion. Instead, “What’s the best meal you’ve eaten?” “What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?” “Where would your dream vacation be?”

4. Be unexpected.

Not crazy, but predictable = boring = death of romance. Be silly if you’re silly, sarcastic if it’s your nature. Tell a joke if you have a good one. Just stand out a little bit from everyone else.

Hunt Ethridge is CMO (Chief Marketing Officer) of LiveDatingAdvice.com, co-founder and senior partner at International Dating Coach Association (IDCA) as well as the senior coach at New York Dating Coach. Hunt is a dating and relationship expert that has consulted hundreds of men and women over the years. Hunt believes that each person is an individual and strives to make them the best version of themselves.

Rachel Russo

Call her before the date to confirm the details.

Break the ice, set the plan, and get her excited to go out with you!

Be the guy she is expecting to meet. In other words, don’t misrepresent yourself-whether it’s your age, occupation, or marital status. Whether you met her on Match.com or Hashsnap, look like the guy in the photos!

Have good manners. Be on time. Open doors. Pull out chairs. Don’t curse like a sailor. Chew with your mouth closed. Pick up the tab.

Be both interesting and interested. Have something unique to talk about. Tell her stories about who you really are and avoid the inauthentic, small talk. Ask her questions about herself that show you have genuine interest in getting to know her for who she is. Avoid all the topics you know you shouldn’t talk about–exes, politics, religion, etc.

End the date properly. Walk her to her car, bus, or train. Care about how she gets home. If she’s given you strong signals of attraction, go in for the kiss. Otherwise, just give her a hug.

Lastly, master the art of the follow-up. If you like her, let her know.

Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a NYC-based Dating & Relationship Expert, Matchmaker, Image Consultant, Author, & Speaker. She knows exactly what men should and shouldn’t do on first dates–because she once went on 92 dates and blogged about them in one year as Ms. New York of 3six5dates.com. Check out her website rachelrusso.com

Lori Cheek

It’s not rocket science to be a perfect date, but just like all walks of life, a first, honest and lasting impression goes a long way.

My cheeky first date tips for men goes a little something like this:

1. Be a man with a plan.

Although women are fiercely independent these days, whatever you do, don’t ask what your date would like to do. Find out a little about what she likes and come up with a few options and be flexible.

2. Be on time.

And show up looking your best (14 second first impression rule still exists). When she approaches, open your arms… There’s nothing more ice breaking than a friendly hug. A handshake on a first date can be so awkward.

3. Be polite, attentive and experiment with the dying art of flirting, if you are indeed actually interested.

Get a little physical—not in a sexual sense, but in an affectionate way. A simple touch of her arm can let you know you’re interested without being over the top.

4. When mid-date, do a chemistry check…

If you don’t feel like you could actually end up kissing the person in front of you, you might not want to waste each other’s time, so cut the evening short. It might even save you a lot of money.

5. Now for the finale….

Don’t say “I’ll call you.” if you have no intention of calling and if you do, follow up! Those stupid waiting rules are non-existent. Send a nice message the next morning. If she responds, you can start planning round 2!

My last and most important advice is to have your Cheekd app downloaded and your Bluetooth on. In case it’s now working with your date, the love of your life might be right behind the two of you and our app will capture her information for when you part ways. Now get out there and get CHEEKY!

Lori Cheek, Architect turned Entrepreneur, Founder and CEO of Cheekd— a mobile dating app that makes missed connections obsolete. Lori, a Shark Tank Veteran, was recently listed as “The Digital Dating Disruptor” and “One of the Top 10 CEOs to Watch.” A University of Kentucky Architectural Graduate, Lori is no longer building structures. She’s now building relationships.

Suzanne Oshima

Here’s my best first date tips for men:

1. Plan A Great Date

This sounds so basic, but I can’t tell you how many women tell me when a man doesn’t plan the first date. If you asked her out, do not ask her to pick the restaurant. In the early stages of dating, you should never leave it up to the woman to plan the date. You may ask her for her input, but you should be the man and plan a creative unique date.

2. Compliment Her

She took a lot of time and effort to get ready for a date with you, so make sure you notice and appreciate it by complimenting her. Not only should you tell her how beautiful she looks, but you should also compliment her on something she’s wearing or on the scent of her perfume.

3. No Cell Phones

Never take a call or text during your date. The only time it is acceptable is if it is urgent. In which case, make sure you tell her who and why you have to take the call/text, otherwise she may assume it is another woman.

4. Make Sure She Gets Home Safely

Show her you care about her and her safety. Make sure you drive her home, pay for the cab ride home, or walk her home.

5. The Next Day

If you enjoyed the date and you want to see her again, make sure you call or text her the next day. Let her know how much you enjoyed the date, her company and ask her out again.

Suzanne Oshima is a Matchmaker and Dating Coach at Dream Bachelor and Bachelorette who has helped thousands of single men and women worldwide succeed at dating to help them find true love.

Tracey Steinberg

The most important thing you can do to be your most attractive self on a date is to show up feeling confident because that is by far the sexiest trait.

So before you go on a date remind yourself why you are a catch and why anyone would be lucky to spend time with you. Also, make sure to choose a place for your date that evokes the kind of mood you want the date to have.

Do you want it to be sexy? You may want to suggest a swanky lounge for delicious cocktails. Do you want it to be playful? You may want to suggest a fun game of bowling and then ask your date if she’s up for it. When you first see your date, greet her with a big smile and let her know you are happy to see her.

Dateologist Tracey Steinberg is a happily married dating coach, media personality, attorney, confidence-booster and the author of, “Flirt For Fun & Meet The One: Dating Secrets From The Dateologist.”

Jasbina Ahluwalia

Top 3 First Date Do’s

1. Relax, and have fun with it.

Do your best to leave your self-consciousness home – if you’re relaxed, she’s more likely to be as well.

2. One great way to have fun with it is to share with her what excites you during your conversation.

And make it your goal to learn more about what excites her. Sharing passions with each other connects people.

3. Enjoy the experience.

And keep in mind the only question with a first date is whether the two of you connected sufficiently to interact further. No pressure. This isn’t about meeting someone just a few times, and deciding she’s your wife.

Top 3 First Date Don’ts

1. Preconceived notions tend to come in the way of two people truly allowing themselves to get to know each other.

So resist the urge to Google her. Just say no.

2. Interview her — you know what I mean.

I’m sure you’ve been on the receiving end of a date “interrogation” before. That’s so not fun, and not an effective way to connect.

3. Self-edit to avoid offending.

Bring on the best version of your authentic self. If she can’t handle it, she’s not your woman.

Jasbina Ahluwalia is a Matchmaker/Dating Coach, Radio Show host & founder of Intersections Match by Jasbina – the only Matchmaking & Online Dating Support Firm in North America & the U.K. for Indian Singles. A finalist in OPRAH’S search for a TV Host, she’s also been featured in the New York Times, San Jose Mercury News, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post & Entrepreneur Magazine.

Kyle Ingham

What’s the best tip for a first date? It’s pretty simple: be present.

If you think about it, most of the worst first date experiences happen when your mind is elsewhere: You’re thinking about how you “struck out” with the last 3 women, and you’ll be pissed if yet another woman blows you off. You worry she’s out of your league, so you’re awkwardly doing everything you can to impress her.

Or you’re obsessing about how much you like her…and all you can see is this soft-focus, movie montage in your head about making sweet love on the beach with the waves crashing…Meanwhile, you don’t realize she’s bored and kind of creeped out by the way you’re staring at her all doe-eyed.

Or maybe: you’re so caught up in telling your own life story…that you forget to ask about her—what she likes to do for fun, what inspires her, whether she likes her cocktail…or whether she wants to skip the movie and just grab an ice cream and go for a walk.
Take a breath. Smile. Listen. And most importantly, GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.

Neither of you knows how the night will go. But it’s way better if you’re there to find out.

Kyle Ingham is the founder of The Distilled Man, an online community that helps everyday guys become better men. Click here to download his free ebook, 48-Hour Gentleman: Your One-Weekend Plan to More Confidence, Poise, and Manly Know-How.

Claudia Cox

Here’s my best first date suggestions:

1. Create a little sexual tension before the date by sending her a flirty text message.

“I hope you’re ready for everything I have planned tonight ”

2. During the date be completely present.

Turn off your phone, or better yet, leave it in the car, and tell her she has your full attention – there’s nothing sexier.

3. Don’t be a tell all.

Flirt and maintain a certain amount of mystery. If there’s nothing left for her to discover, she won’t agree to a second date, now will she?

4. End the date before she does, you know, while the evening is still hopping.

“I hate to put an end to such a fun evening, but I should get you home”. Once again, the
key to seduction is to leave the other person wanting more.

5. Send her a sweet follow up text message.

“Sleep tight and promise that you’ll dream of me too”.
And dream she will….

Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through creative texting. To read more by Claudia, visit Text Weapon. Don’t forget to sign up for the FREE Texting Club trial with over 300 messages. You can also hit her up on Twitter.

Julie Ferman

When inviting her out, be clear and decisive, the man with the plan, and choose a nice spot, quiet enough for conversation.

Confirm by text message a day prior or the morning of, so she’ll know you’ll be there and are looking forward to seeing her. Dress nicely (she probably will) and be on time. Ask questions, demonstrate sincere interest in her, and make sure the conversation is balanced.

Be a gentleman, always kind and courteous to her and to the people all around you. Whether you’re attracted to her, interested in seeing her again or not, give her your full attention and do your part to make sure she’s having a nice time. Plan to pick up the tab, and when the check hits the table, just handle it. If cost is a concern, choose reasonable spots or have happy hour or coffee dates.

Be honest – if you’d like to see her again, say so and ask if she’d like to get together again. If the magic isn’t there, don’t fib – just let her know that you enjoyed having the chance to meet her and that you had a nice time. When in doubt, have a second date.

Julie Ferman is a Legendary Matchmaker and Dating Guru. Register privately, for free, to be eligible for personal matchmaking referrals. She is responsible for 1100 marriages. Her website is julieferman.com.

KarenLee Poter

First Date Tips:

1. Choose a place where you’re comfortable.

Don’t pick a 5 star restaurant if you’re on a 2 star budget. If you’re feeling out of place, it starts the date out on the wrong foot. Conversely, if you pick somewhere that you’ve been to before or that shows a little about your creativity and personality, you’ll be that much more ahead of the game.

2. Come dressed like a man – no t-shirts, sweats or ratty gym shoes.

By all means take a shower prior to the date and put on a small amount of cologne. No need to overpower her with Old Spice. Your teeth are important since they show good general hygiene, make sure to brush and whiten them. Make sure your breath is fresh. Trim your facial hair and style your hair.

3. Arrive on time – it’s important to show your date that you respect her time.

Put cell phone away – unless you’re an ER doctor, there’s no need to be on call for anyone but your date.

4. Ask questions, pay attention to her and listen.

There’s no need to dominate the conversation with stories of your greatness. The whole idea is to make your date feel special and want to find out more about you.

5. Don’t over drink – she won’t want to be picking you up off the floor.

Remain in control and don’t make a fool of yourself by slurring your words and spitting in her face.

6. Don’t over share personal information.

She doesn’t need to hear about your psycho ex- girlfriend or how you’ve just gotten out of rehab.

7. Be polite.

Open the door for her, let her pick the seat at the table, and laugh at her jokes, even if they’re not that funny.

8. Be conscious of your body language.

Give her good eye contact, try not to be defensive and cross your arms over your chest, and by all means smile. Touch her arm during the conversation which will indicate that you’re interested in her. Of course don’t be too aggressive by putting your arm around her or by slapping her high fives.

9. Call me old fashioned, but offer to pay for the date.

It’s not going to break your bank to pay for her and it shows class.

10. If you sense the attraction is mutual at the end of the date – go for a kiss and make it a good one.

Start gently and think of it as a dance. If she follows your lead, continue the kiss, but if she backs off be respectful and say good night. A text later on to let her know you enjoyed her company will seal the deal.

KarenLee Poter currently hosts an Internet talk show, The KarenLee Poter Show, and blog about dating, sex, love, and everything in-between. KarenLee recently published, A Cougar’s Guide To Getting Your Ass Back Out There, a book about her experiences and insights into dating again. Poter is also an expert in large age gap relationships, as she’s been in a committed relationship for the past 7 years with a man several years her junior. The KarenLee Poter Show commands a worldwide audience, receiving nearly 125,000 views per month, and KarenLee’s writing has been featured on multiple blog sites.

Chris Manak

Three Quick Tips for a First Date

1. Don’t let this date be your only option.

If you have only one date in months, you’ll almost certainty cock it up by putting all your hopes and dreams into this one basket. Women feel that kind of desperation. And it’s pretty hard to relax and have a good time if your happiness is resting on the outcome of this one date.

2. Do something that YOU will enjoy.

Stop trying to please her. Too often guys do the date that they think they’re SUPPOSED to do, and talk about what they think they SHOULD talk about, and are then left wondering why the girl doesn’t want a repeat of this stagnant date. No – do something that YOU enjoy, even if it’s just a drink in the sun. Talk about what you’re passionate about. This will automatically brighten you up, make you more interested, and more interesting.

3. Just pay you tight arse.

Don’t make a big deal of it. It says a lot about you (and nothing too good) if you’re asking her to chip in for her coffee and cake. However, with that said, if a girl never offers to contribute after a few dates – that’s a red flag.

Chris Manak is one of Australia’s most renowned and sought after dating coaches for men. Check out Chris’s pick up artist training here.

Sarah Williams

Stay cool and focus on self-improvement.

Always “keep your cool”. Focusing on your insecurities or worrying that a woman is “out of your league” will show through immediately in your body language. If you are just aren’t her type, trying harder won’t make her like you more. This will only make you look needy – the most unattractive quality in dating.

Instead of trying too hard and getting obsessed with dating tactics, focus on self-improvement and become the “best version” of yourself. A confident, relaxed, and not-desperate attitude flows forth from within and cannot be faked.

By trying new things, raising your fitness and health levels, consuming quality media, and surrounding yourself with creative people, you will become a more interesting and attractive person. Your new confidence will attract the high-quality girls you want as your attitude towards “life in general” improves.

Sarah Williams is a dating advisor at Wingman Magazine. She enjoys motivating men to reach their highest potential and find more fulfillment in their social interactions.

Julie Wadley

Here’s a tip: listen with your eyes.

Pay attention to what her body is telling you as if it’s speaking directly to you. People enjoy saying that men don’t get subtlety and need to be told EXACTLY what a woman is thinking. If you expect a woman to do that on the first date, you’re setting yourself up for a lot of bad dates. Here are some critical elements to look out for:

What is her mood at first sight? If she’s cranky or distracted, you’ve got some work to do. Find a way to make her laugh or get her talking about her day.

How does she look when you’re talking? If she breaks eye contact for an extended period of time, you’ve lost her. Bring it back with a question.

Is her body leaning towards you or away from you? If she is increasing the space between you, this means she’s lost interest.

Does she purposefully touch you more than once? If so, you’ve got a winner!

Does she linger toward the end of the date? Ask her for another date. Do not wait. If she agrees, follow up WITHIN 24 HOURS to nail down specifics.

Julie Wadley is the owner of Eli Simone, a boutique matchmaking and coaching company based in Charlotte, NC. She works with success driven individuals who desire more out of life and love through her signature group and one on one programs.

Kristina Lynn

My top first date tips:

1. Be a Gentleman

Some men may be hesitant to insist on opening doors because they’ve heard from some women “I can do it myself”. If that happens, your response to that should be “My mother raised me to appreciate women and be a gentleman!” You will stand out from some of the other men she’s dating and show you have high standards! When she’s with you she should feel special!

2. Pick up the Phone

Never ever ask a woman out or schedule a date over text!!! Reserve texting for things like “parking the car” or “running 5 minutes late”. If she’s texting you and not taking your calls then send her this text: “Texting is great, but hearing your voice is even better!” It shows you’re really interested in her and not just looking for a booty call.

3. Listen and take Charge!!!

Women like men who listen and take charge! Ask questions about what she does for fun, her interests and hobbies. Then use that information to take charge and plan a date. There’s nothing worse than a man with no plan who asks “What do you want to do?”

4. Pick Up The Tab

Even if she offers to pick up the tab – DO NOT LET HER . . . (even if she makes more money than you)!!

5. Establish a Brand That Women Remember

Do you have a code you live by? Most people don’t and that’s where you can stand out! Here’s an example: “I always do what I say I’m going to do, when I say I’m going to do it” or “I only date one woman at a time so I can really get to know her”. If you set a standard and then follow through she will trust and respect you. You’ve just blown 90% of guys out of her mind because you’ve got a brand “John the One Woman Guy” or “John the Guy I Can Set My Watch By”. She will remember this when she’s out with other guys who are too lazy to do this!

6. Ask for a Second Date Before the End of the First Date!

If you want to see her again, let her know right then and there and don’t play games like waiting 3 days to call. If you leave her wondering she’s most likely lining up dates with someone else. Women know that if a man wants something he goes after it.

7. Never Talk About Your Ex

Do NOT ask her about her ex or talk about yours. It’s how many potentially great dates take an unrecoverable nose dive into negativity! Keep it upbeat and positive. There’s plenty of time to trade war stories once you’ve established you like each other!

8. Do Not Drink More Than Two Drinks Please!

NINE times out of TEN a good date goes bad because of alcohol! It’s also the reason most people violate rule #7 – even after I’ve told them not to! Limit yourself to 2 drinks (if any) for the first few dates!

Kristina Lynn is one of the top women executives in the Matchmaking industry. She’s the founder of Love Revolution Matchmaking a boutique agency in Los Angeles and FinalMatch.com a universal database used by the top professional Matchmakers in the world to find the best possible match for their clients.

Dan Munro

First date tip:

“I believe that honesty has to be the biggest focus for a first date.

If this person is going to be a bad fit for you, then it’s best to limit yourself to just this one date. You know what it’s like to get into something long-term and invested, only to find out you weren’t right for each other. It sucks!

I think of it as “farting on the first date”. If you let out your “worst” on the first date, not only will you lead her to deeper intimacy quickly, you’ll also be left with a clear measurement of how well you two would go longer term. BTW: I’m assuming that a formal date is aimed at long-term, I wouldn’t recommend dating at all to someone who’s just interested in sex, as it’s manipulatively misleading, and there are better social strategies for that anyway.

When I say let out your worst, I mean skip the bullshit about work and family, and dive straight into dreams, fears and insecurities. If the two of you end up laughing about your shared insecurities, you got yourself a good match!”

Dan Munro is a Confidence and Authenticity Coach based out of New Zealand, founder of the men’s mastermind community The Brojo, and #1 bestselling author of The Legendary Life.

Niki Payne

Always confirm date details at least 24 hours in advance.

Women hate it when it’s the day of the date and they have no idea if the date is still happening. You want her to be excited about meeting you, not annoyed that you didn’t confirm until the very last minute. You also want the date to start off on a positive note, not a negative one.

Show up on time, and dress for the occasion, whether it’s a dinner date or a mini golf adventure. Last but not least, be more interested than you are interesting. Ask her questions about herself and share your answers to some of the same questions so you’ll both have an opportunity to relate and connect on a deeper level. These are generally the best tips for the first date!

LA Dating Examiner Niki Payne covers all things dating for Examiner.com and serves as the LA City Rep for Intrigued, a new pay-as-you-go dating experience where affordable matchmaking meets matchmakers highly motivated to find you a great match. Join free at tobeintrigued.com.

Lory Kelsey

My First Date Dating Tips for Men

Congratulations! You have a date! Some advance preparation will go a long way. So BEFORE your first date, here’s your checklist:
1. Make sure you have spoken prior on the phone. Not just texts and emails.
2. Make sure your car is washed. Tidy inside.
3. Make sure you have had time to freshen up.
4. Make sure you look like a gentleman. Err on the side of dressing up more than less.
5. Make sure to pop a breath mint before the date begins.
6. Make sure to double check your date’s name. Don’t lose points addressing her by the wrong name!
7. Make sure to check out the location of the place you’ve chosen to meet. Also check out the parking so you can advise your date.
8. Make sure to check out the menu. You can then speak knowledgably about the dishes.
9. Make sure you arrive a bit early so you are there to greet her.
10. Make sure you have her phone number with you.

Good luck on your first date; have fun and relax!

Lory Kelsey, MSW is the Founder of Greenwich Matchmaker in Greenwich, Connecticut for single upscale professional Ladies and Gents in the NY/CT area seeking a serious romantic relationship. Her website is greenwichmatchmaker.com and services include individualized matchmaking/social introductions and dating coaching.

Jay Mayo

First Date Tips for Men

There are so many things that we as men must consider when preparing for a first date. We must have a solid plan in place, know what we’re going to wear, have conversation starters and questions on deck and have enough money to afford all the things we have planned for the lovely lady.

Each of those things is important, but I want to share with you something that is vital for EVERY man to have before going on a first date. However, it is something that many men often lack; myself included for many years!

The one thing I believe every man must have before going on a first date is a VISION. He must have a vision of what he desires in a woman and a vision of the destination that he would like to lead them both towards.

This vision must far surpass inviting a woman to a fancy restaurant to wine and dine her. A man must know whether he is interested in a woman who he plans to court and one day marry or if he is simply looking for something casual.

Having a clear vision will enable a man to verbally communicate to women what he is interested in and help him determine whether or not a woman he’s going on a date with is in alignment with his vision.

Without a clear vision, the first date will be a disaster before it even starts. So before you ask a woman out…HAVE A VISION!

Jay Mayo helps people embrace their singleness and realize their dream of having happy, healthy and long lasting relationships, the way God intended! Learn more about Jay and the Right to R.E.A.L. Love podcast at righttoreallove.com.

Laurel House

If you are looking for a serious relationship, while chemistry is important, it is not the purpose of the first date.

Chemistry activates in the brain in the same location as cocaine. Yes…it acts like a drug. One that can blind you from seeing a woman’s red flags as well as areas that will eventually be relationship enders.

The first date is about connection. But how do you create that connection? By taking into account who you and she truly are. Screw the facade. It’s time to get real. Show who you truly are by focusing on 3 things:

Where were you, Where are you, Where are you going? Translation: your past experiences that lead you to where you are now- the strong, better, more ready person who you have evolved to become, and what your goals are- both short and long term. Have conversations that are substantive. In order to not seem like you are reading your bio or asking them interrogative questions, have conversations in a story telling style. Tell stories about life markers and experiences that shifted your perspective and impacted your personality. If you want a relationship with short term potential, stick with small talk. But if you are truly ready for something real, you’ve got to get real. That is how you will truly connect on a date.

Laurel House is an International Dating Coach, Online Dating Expert, and the author of “Screwing The Rules; The No-Games Guide to Love.” You may have seen or heard her advice on Good Morning America, Today Show, AskMen.com, The Wall Street Journal, or you may have been one of the 24 million views of her YouTube videos. She is known as “The Man Whisperer.”

Marc Summers

The Best First Date Tips For Men:

1. Don’t Have Expectations – Don’t plan on getting laid

Don’t plan the outcome. Clear your mind and be open and cool with whatever happens. Only plan on making a new friend and THAT’S IT. Otherwise, you’ll be disappointed if it doesn’t go “your way”.

2. Get Rid of the “I Want a Girlfriend” Mindset

This mindset causes you to be overly nice, needy, and desperate to get her approval. Believe in your mind you already have a girlfriend and you’re just hanging out with a cool new friend. This relieves the “pressure” to be perfect.

3. Spend 1 – 2 Hours Relaxing and Having Fun Before the Date

Show up relaxed and in a good mood. Before the date, stretch, drink water, watch TV or a funny movie, chill, and laugh a lot so your mind is clear and stress free when you show up. She wants “relaxed and fun” guy. Not nervous and stressed guy.

4. Be Well Groomed – Brush/floss your teeth well

Pull or trim those weird and creepy hairs from your nose and ears. Clean and trim your nails. Wear cologne. Shave. Comb your hair. Wash 3 times in the shower. Put lotion on your hands so they don’t look like they belong to a reptile.

5. Don’t Talk Too Much About Yourself

She’s not impressed by your job, car, career, pets, past, money, house, etc. Be a good listener, let her talk, be focused and present, and be interested in what she says. Answer her questions but don’t elaborate about yourself too much. No bragging. The best way to impress her is to NOT TRY to impress her. Never talk more than she does.

6. Never Bring Up Past Relationships – Ex girlfriends kill the vibe

If you have to comment, even if you hate her guts, don’t be negative. Ex: “She’s a good person but we’re better being friends.” BAM. That’s it. Topic over.

7. Have Fun – Stay positive

Make her laugh and laugh WITH her. Talk to her like she’s your best friend, not like you just met her and you don’t know her. Be relaxed. Tell her a lot of “You know what I find hilarious” type stuff. The best conversations happen when you’re just talking about random, light-hearted stuff, and in the end, you really didn’t talk about anything serious or heavy – and she had the time of her life.

Hey it’s Marc Summers. I’m the founder of MajorLeagueDating.com and author of How to Quit Being a Loser With Women. I don’t consider myself to be a “pickup artist” or “seduction coach”. I’m just a normal guy, like you, who overcame the challenging and frustrating problems we often face with women and dating. Now I teach what I learned and it will help you fix your current problems with women and you’ll learn the tips, tricks, and mindsets that naturally cause women to feel attraction for you as well.

Kimberly Seltzer

First Date Tips For Men

A first impression happens within the first thirty seconds of your date. Women size you up instantly based on what you look like, and they use that assessment to decide whether they want to get to know you.

In fact, research says that you can literally increase the odds of your dating success 55% just by paying attention to the way your present yourself with the clothes you wear, the attitude you have and the body language you demonstrate.

Here are 3 easy tips to a great first impression.

Dress To Impress
Clothes should be fitted, youthful and modern. It’s important that your style is up-to-date and not reminiscent of decades past. Don’t look like you did when you were just starting out in your favorite oversized football jerseys.

Be Present
Women need men to be present. Listen when she speaks and make eye contact. Avoid scanning the room while she talks, and align your body with hers so she knows you’re paying attention. A great way to show her you’re listening is to bring up something she says later on in conversation.

Have A Strong Alpha Body Language
Body language is part of your presentation so when you become aware of your body, you can then take action to make sure it is working for you and not against you! Women cannot resist a strong presence from a man, so go in with confidence. Open doors, pull out her chair and avoid nervous behaviors like biting the nails and fidgeting.

Kimberly Seltzer is a Makeover & Confidence Expert, Therapist and Dating Coach based in Los Angeles. She utilizes the unique combined use of therapy, in-field date coaching, NLP and styling to help people with their confidence and dating life. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post, DigitalRomance.com, WorldLifeStyle.com and YourTango and is featured in Cosmopolitan Magazine, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Redbook and Yahoo Shine.

Adam Wren

Best First Date Tip

For me, my best first date tip is to go in with a curiosity mentality. Don’t go in thinking about how you need to impress her or how to build attraction. That thought process will do the complete opposite. Thinking about what you need to do to win her over is only going to sub communicate that you’re seeking her approval (neediness), and this is incredibly unattractive.

Going into a date being curious about her is going to take things to a different level. Learn about who she is as a person, find out what she’s passionate about, find out what makes her, her. As a result, you’ll find out if she’s the type of person you want to take out again and potentially learn if she is right for you or not. Conversation will flow more naturally and she will generally be inclined to want to know more about you.

This tiny mentality shift is going to set you well apart from guys that want to prove themselves to her and make you stand out as the man who is selective on who he spends his time with.

Adam Wren is the founder and head coach of Get Good Game, an Australian based date coaching company. Get Good Game and Adam focus on building men to be the best men they can be, because when you are the best man you can be, being good with women is something that comes naturally rather than having to think about what to do.

Steve Hansen

First dates are great regardless of whether you’re looking for an immediate relationship or just a little chemistry.

The great news is that she already said yes, so let that be the bit of confidence you need to get things started right.

Be yourself, but also be a gentleman. That one simple thing will immediately elevate your chances of connecting on a deeper level and having a mutually successful date.

Be open with her. You don’t have to give her every detail of your life but if you broach a sensitive topic instead of shutting down, share a few feelings. I promise it won’t make you any less of a man and she’ll more than likely be excited you’re not afraid to be vulnerable.

Last but not least, observe, listen and be genuinely engaging. Don’t be afraid to dive deep and ask her real life questions in lieu of, “What type of music do you listen to?” The more honest you are about who you are and what you need in a relationship, the more likely you’ll find yourself on the way to a fulfilling and meaningful one. This is my best first date advice of all!

Steve Hansen is a Dating/Life Coach and a Perspective Expert. His focus is helping others find more positive ways to view all facets of their lives. Check out his website thestevehansen.com.

Lucia

First Date Tips

1. Pay for everything, including valet parking, even if she makes 10x more money than you.

It shows that you’re interested in her, since you’re willing to make an investment.

2. Avoid any type of bragging or showing off.

The desire to show her what you have or what you’ve done will be strong, but if she’s a quality woman, she’ll be interested in you as a person, not in your accomplishments or material possessions.

3. The only way to really know if she’s interested is to go in for a kiss at the end of the evening.

This will be easier to do if there has already been physical contact during the date – such as taking her hand when you cross the street or putting your hand on her lower back. If she’s interested, she’ll allow you to kiss her on the lips, otherwise, you’ll get her cheek.

Lucia is an internationally known dating/relationship expert and TV personality, author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love” and “How to Catch a Cougar” and keynote speaker. She’s also the former host of both “The Art of Love” radio and TV shows. Lucia can be reached at: theartoflove.net

Anita Chlipala

Stay in the present.

If you have a friend’s wedding coming up in a month, don’t ask your date to be your plus-one. It can scare her off and puts too much pressure on both of you to force a relationship before the event.

At this point, you’re still a stranger to her. Instead, stay focused on learning more about the woman in front of you. You don’t know her well enough either to know if you’d like her around longer than the first date. Be present in the moment. Wait until you’re exclusive for that kind of commitment.

Waiting for the perfect woman? She doesn’t exist. Single guys fall into the trap of thinking there’s someone “better” out there. They end up dismissing their date too quickly over a tiny issue or dating woman after woman.

But no matter who you date, you’ll have differences (opinions, values, preferences, etc.) with every woman, so you have to decide what you can accept and live with. Also, date from the perspective of what she offers and the good traits you admire. Look for a woman who’s a good fit for you, not a perfect fit, otherwise you risk staying a single bachelor forever.

Anita Chlipala is a dating & relationship expert and founder of Relationship Reality 312, Inc. She provides national and international date and relationship coaching and therapy and is on a mission to prove that happy and satisfying relationships are possible!

Miss Solomon

Make The First Date Everything That You Want It To Be

If you can have fun together as a couple it gives you better odds of compatibility than if you were to interview your date in an attempt to try to get to know them. Your ability to have fun with your date tells them as much about you as they need to know to determine if they like you. It’s this easygoing behavior that can lead to a second date.

This is why I don’t think it matters what you do on your first date as long as you both have a good time. Talking to each other isn’t the measure of compatibility, it’s how you feel together. Compatibility has nothing to do with where your date went to college or why their last relationship ended.

What matters is if you can have fun together, and feel good about yourself in their presence. The level of fun you want to have should be a factor in what type of date you plan. How you feel together no matter what you’re doing is the best measure of compatibly and chemistry.

Miss Solomon is a dating coach and creator of Thedatingtruth.com an advice blog for singles professionals.

James Preece

First Date Advice

The best way the date can end is for you to share a kiss. If you don’t you’ll be stuck in the friends zone and she won’t have a clue whether you are interested in her or not. You HAVE to make it obvious and get her in the state of mind that she’s relaxed and comfortable with you.

This will involve teasing, touching and talking – the three keys to getting her attracted to you. If you want someone to kiss you, think about this happening while you speak to her. This makes your eyes dilate so they appear much bigger and more attractive. Keep darting your eyes to her lips and she’ll subconsciously get the message. Slowly lean in towards her and keep it short but passionate. You want to leave her wanting more so she’s begging to see you again.

James Preece is the Dating Guru, one of the best known dating coaches in the UK. Check out his website jamespreece.com.

Lisa Schmidt

First date tips:

Stop asking the same old boring questions on first and second dates. Ask about their favorite childhood memory instead of “Where did you grow up”?

Coffee is a PERFECT first date for several reasons.
1. It will cost you less than $10 and no more than 60-90 minutes of your time.
2. You can always stay longer if there is a great connection.

If you had a good time and want to see them again – JUST SAY SO! Don’t wait 3-5 days and give them a chance to wonder or perhaps move on. Also, if you aren’t interested, be honest about that as well. Wish them luck and be done with it.

Attire – Dress for the environment and for yourself. Wear something that makes you feel confident. Your outfit should fit you in every sense of the word. The cut and style of your clothing says a lot about you. Women look at every inch of this, right down to the wear on your shoes.

Want to stay out of the friend zone? Don’t be their friend, because you want to be their lover. Give direct compliments and flirt so that there is no confusion as to what your intentions are.

Lisa Schmidt is a Dating and Relationship coach in Detroit; helping men take back their power, to be memorable and get the girl. She is also the author of her own blog, contributor to Huffington Post and several online publications.

Kristi Allain

My First Date Tips For Men:

1. Take charge and make a plan

Women like a man who confidently takes charge of a situation. To set yourself up for the best possible impression, make a plan in advance and confirm the details with your date.

2. Keep communication open

It’s critical that you communicate with her the day before the date, as well as the day after. If a girl doesn’t hear from you by the morning of the date, there’s a good chance she’ll assume it’s not happening and make other plans.

3. Break the physical contact barrier

You can quickly build rapport by establishing physical contact with her as early in the date as possible. Start the date with a hug, and find a spot where you can sit side by side, such as a bar or booth, to allow opportunities for more casual physical contact throughout the date.

4. Be prepared for it to go well

If the date is going well, you might want to carry on to a second location. Knowing a couple spots nearby will give you options to extend the date if you’re both having fun.

Kristi Allain is a bestselling author, dating coach, and founder of Nailed It! Coaching, where she helps busy singles bring their best and most authentic selves to the table so that they can find, attract, and keep the partner of their dreams. Visit her site at kristiallain.com for more insightful dating advice, and grab her free Date Idea Handbook with 100+ date ideas at kristiallain.com/date-ideas.

Saskia Nelson

First date tips for men

Lots of my female clients tell me that their dates tend to dominate the conversation to the point where sometimes it becomes a bit of a monologue. This might come from a place of nerves rather than having a big ego, but the result is the same, these women feel unengaged and bored.

First dates are the time to surprise and delight your date and I would say the best way to do that is to be ‘interested and interesting’, in that order.

To be ‘interested’, ask them lots of relevant questions and actively listen and engage with the answers. Women love to be heard and with the right questions she will warm to you and open up. To show you’re listening, use open body language, lean towards her, clarify what she is saying by repeating things back to her and ask good follow-on questions. I wrote a blog post here on first date questions which you might find helpful too.

To be ‘interesting’, keep a check on what you’re talking about. Watch her body language and see how she responds to different topics. If she turns her body away and loses eye contact with you, she’s not that into it. If you’re struggling with this, make sure your life doesn’t just revolve around dating and work and that you actually have interesting things going on. It’s a great excuse to sign up for something new and challenge yourself.

Saskia Nelson is the talent behind the award-winning and internationally acclaimed Saturday Night’s Alright, the UK’s coolest dating photography business, specializing in creating dating photos that kick ass and win dates for 100s of single people. She is also the co-founder of Irresistible Dating. She has been credited by Time magazine for kick-starting the genre of dating photography and is recognized as the leading industry expert in the UK & US on all things dating-photo related.

Sebastian Harris

My best first date tips for men:

Preparation is very important. Clean your apartment, make sure that you carry one (better two) condoms with you and take a shower before you go out. No girl wants to jump in bed with a smelly man who lives in an apartment that looks like a crack house.

Your style is also very important. Leave the sweatpants and the dirty shirts at home. A good style communicates self-respect and it also shows her that you really care about getting to know her.

However, just because you put on your expensive suit doesn’t mean that you have to pay for her food and drinks. I might be a bit extreme when it comes to paying on dates, but I never do it, no matter if I am in the USA or in the Philippines. Thereby, I sort out the girls who are only interested in a free meal. If a girl is really interested in you she will be happy to pay for her drink.

Sebastian Harris is a travel enthusiast and a lover of women who has the vision to inspire men all over the world to overcome their fears and to date the women of their dreams. He shares his advice and adventures at globalseducer.com.

Arlene Vasquez

Despite our evolution as a fast-paced society, when it comes to dating, some things remain constant—be your best authentic self, and mind your manners!

As for the first date itself, we know it’s all about making a great first impression; however, dealing with nerves, trying to be an active listener and saying the “right” things can be tough. Here are some Do’s and Don’ts to consider.

Do…

1. Be on time
2. Dress appropriately for the activity
3. Make sure you have fresh breath
4. Listen when your date is answering a question
5. Have a good time!

Don’t…

1. Brag about yourself
2. Bad-mouth your exes
3. Bring up your emotional baggage
4. Be rude to your date or wait staff
5. Lead a person on by saying you will call if you don’t plan to do so

But, who makes the first move after a date? It is perfectly okay for a woman to text her date to thank him, especially if they had a great time. Otherwise, men, the chase is on! You need to let her know you’re interested—text her or call her! If you’re really interested in continuing the relationship, don’t hold off for some silly “3 day rule” and risk her interest fading away.

Arlene Vasquez is a relationship expert, radio & TV guest, speaker, blog and magazine contributor. She has been featured in many media outlets including Cosmo Radio, Project Eve, and Telemundo. Arlene was trained and certified by the Matchmaking Institute in New York City. Check out her website avconnexions.com

40. Justin Stenstrom

As the creator of this awesome post I had an unfair advantage to this query of first date tips for men!

By that, I mean I got to look at 39 other experts and what they had to say before this post went live. So instead of potentially copying one or a number of other masterful dating experts – who definitely already nailed it by now, I figured I’d switch it up a bit and give you 3 quick tips for building attraction on the first date.

1. Smile, Laugh, and Tease Her

Smiling, laughing, and teasing a woman demonstrates so much confidence and shows a woman that you are a fun and down-to-earth guy. She’ll be interested right off the bat when you do these three things.

2. Connect With Her By Finding Commonalities Between You And Her

Building rapport, trust, and comfort is the most important thing on a first date. A woman just isn’t going to want to see a man again if she doesn’t feel emotionally connected to him. Find similar interests with your date and talk about things you both enjoy to really connect with her. Feeling connected is the ultimate attraction for women.

3. Be Bold And Unapologetic

By being decidedly bold on your date you demonstrate that you are one hundred percent comfortable in your own skin and that you are completely confident. Women pick up on this and they love seeing men who are confident in who they are. This isn’t a license to be a douche, but it is a recommendation in how to behave. Be bold, unapologetic, and confident, and you will notice the attraction switches activating rather quickly.

Justin Stenstrom is a nationally acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the founder of EliteManMagazine.com, the author of the book Giving Shy Guys Game, and the host of the Elite Man Podcast on iTunes. His mission is to provide men with the best tools to become complete gentleman. Justin is an ordinary guy with an extraordinary hunger for the advancement of today’s gentleman. Once shy, insecure, depressed, and unhappy, Justin’s overcome many of life’s greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping other guys do the same! For a complete bio on Justin click here.

 

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