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The Top Texting Tips

May 24, 2015 by Justin Stenstrom Leave a Comment

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Texting has, in the 21st century, become the most common and convenient form of communication known to man. Everyone and their mother does it now. Women of all ages love to text, and do it constantly throughout the day. And why not? It’s easy to do, only takes a minute, is non-intrusive, and saves time. So if women love to do it, guys should at least know the basics about how to do it. So many times I see guys with awful texts messages to girls, and I wonder what exactly goes on in their heads. This is not rocket science here, but some basic knowledge of the skill must be taught. For god sakes, “Wat u up 2” is not going to get you a woman! Unless of course your 15 years old, and all the other kids are talking like that. But you are not a kid anymore and that is not attractive.

So rule number one for texting is to spell your words correctly! This should be a given, but for some reason, just because it’s a text message some guys think they do not have to adhere to the rules of the English language. I’ve seen all sorts of wacky misspelled words. They’ll even go out of their way to spell something wrong, as if it’s cool to do so. It is not. Women are turned off by this, and they see you as unintelligent and already beneath them, if you have just met them. It’s like going to an interview dressed in swim shorts and a tank top. They are just not going to take you serious when you cannot correctly communicate with them.

No more “Wat”, or “Hay” or “cewl” or “2moro”, this just won’t cut it anymore! It is okay however to spell an occasional word wrong playfully, and only after you’ve demonstrated that you have a good understanding of the language. An example can be something like “Yooo kiddo how are you?” or “I know it was nice to meet you too sexyyy.” Or even “Sup ____ it was great to meet you” etc. At this point obvious words like these or words that kind of exaggerate something, by adding the extra letters in are okay. It is clear you are either joking around with her, and/or are trying to emphasize something. So feel free to do this.

Another good texting tip is to only say via text what you say or will say to her in person. So this means, do not be a telephone tough-guy as Joe Pesci famously likes to say. In other words, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Don’t say all these cool and interesting, and edgy things in text, if when you meet her, your uncomfortable and cannot say a word aloud that you texted her. She is going to think you’ve been castrated. It’s okay to be a little edgy and cool in text, that’s basically the whole point, to get her interested in meeting up with you. However, a lot of guys will take this too far, and try to be Mr. Cool, and what ends up happening is when they meet up with the girl, the girl realizes within about a minute, that Mr. Cool is a complete fake.

Another tip is how to initially text her. Now it’s definitely important when you get a girls number to text her right away, so she gets your number. You should always do this, right when you get the number so you know it’s a real one. Just say something like “It was great meeting you ____ we will definitely have to do ____soon :)” or “Hey sweetheart it was great meeting you today, can’t wait to do ____tomorrow :)”And yes smiley faces are good here and there. Then she may text you back right away, at which point you can text her back pretty quickly as well, depending on what she says. Now I personally do not like to text back and forth all day long, I find it boring, and a lot of waiting around, and waste of productive time. So for me I send these types of messages after I meet women. I send them kind of one way responses, so that they can send me a one way response back, and I can go about my day.

However, like I said, this is what I like to do, not necessarily what the best way may be. Another school of thought, and one that I have seen works pretty well, is to text her right away, more of an open-ended text, so that she talks more, and this can lead to more texts, and to you setting up a date. In my case, I’ve already set up the date in person, or I will text her the next day or the day after and set up a specific day to hangout. Either way works, just choose your preference.

The next texting tip concerns timing. When to text her, and when to text her back after she texts you. Every girl is different, and every girl texts differently. However as a general rule of thumb, you never want to text a girl right away after she texts you. Always try to be about as long, if not longer in the time between texts as she is. And mix up the times between texts that you take. Meaning don’t always text her 10 minutes after she takes 10 minutes to text you back. This is just like in real life, where you cannot look needy. Even though you’ve waited that 10 minutes, if this is your pattern for texting her every time, she is going to pick-up on it. She is going to know you just wait or even time it exactly to 10 minutes every time, and this can be just as bad as texting her within a minute every time.

So instead, text her 10 minutes later, then she’ll text you, and wait 20 minutes, and then 15 minutes, for a few texts, and maybe an hour, and then maybe for that last text after you set up a date or whatever you wanted to do text her 2 minutes later. The point here is that you never want to fall into a pattern; you always want to keep her guessing and keep her thinking about you. The more she does this, the more of a challenge you become to her, and the more she wants you. So mix up your timing guys and never text her right away!

The final tip is about texting her to set up the date. So whenever you decide you want to set up the date, do not open with a text like “Hey do you want to go to the park with me tomorrow?” This is not going to work for many reasons. Instead you should bring back something that you were talking about when you were with her that was either funny, or something that you both connected on. It’s known as callback humor. This should be your first text. Then she’ll text you back, and you can text her a few more times after, either joking around with her, or at this point suggesting a time to hangout that week.

Sometimes saying that you’re busy on a few certain days, but you have so and so off is a great way for you guys to come up with a day that works well for the both of you. Or another good text could be “Hey let me know what days you have off this week, I’m a little busy tomorrow, but after that I’m sure we can figure something out.” And from there you can pick one of the days she gives you, and set up a time.

After this you are golden. Don’t overdue anything, but do remember to text her on the day you are going to meet, if she hasn’t texted you yet. Have an opening text about just saying hi, or what’s up etc. and then just say something like “Hey tonight’s going to be awesome, but I might be like 5 minutes late just to let you know :)” This text effectively makes sure that she is still going, and it allows you to communicate with her, and let her know that you are still expecting to hang with her that day. It also allows you to be a couple minutes late, in case you actually do get stuck in traffic!

If you follow these rules you’ll do well with your text game. If for some reason she doesn’t text back make sure you follow the proper steps for getting her to respond.

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About Justin Stenstrom

Justin Stenstrom is an alternative medicine expert, speaker, and bestselling author of Elite Mind. He is the Editor-in-Chief of EliteManMagazine.com, the founder of Elite Life Nutrition, and the host of the Elite Man Podcast, where he interviews some of the best self-help experts in the world, including guests like Robert Greene, Grant Cardone, Dr. John Gray, Bas Rutten, Anthony William, Dorian Yates and many others. Once anxious, insecure, depressed, and unhappy, Justin’s overcome many of life’s greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping others do the same! For a complete bio on Justin click here.

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