Everyone has a fairly accurate and natural idea about what it looks like to have good and bad body language. We are all attuned to picking up on physical cues like this. We have to be. In fact, they say up to 93% of communication is non-verbal; meaning that when you talk to someone the words that you speak are really only about 7% of what’s being said. So what about the rest of it? Well, about 38% of our communication comes from our voice quality and about 55% comes from our body movements and positions.
So how can we communicate more effectively in our lives by taking advantage of our body language and tone? How can we look more confident, comfortable, and content, and in turn elicit these emotions in the people we are communicating with? After all, that’s what effective communication is really all about – making others feel great when they are talking to you!
I have 4 little-known ways to dramatically improve your body language right now. Everyone knows the more obvious things to improve, things like looking down, avoiding eye contact, slouching your shoulders, etc. These are all great by the way; by improving these things alone you can improve your communication exponentially. But the following 4 examples are just as effective and a lot less common. When you communicate you should:
1) Keep Your Palms Up When You Speak
By keeping your palms up you demonstrate a trust that people can believe in. You are communicating to them that you are a likable and believable person. So when you talk to them, or make a demonstration of some sort, make it while keeping your palms up. This doesn’t have to be your stationary position, as that might be uncomfortable and a little awkward after a while, but try to incorporate the palms-up position throughout different parts of the interaction.
2) Make Pauses During Speech
This particular non-verbal tip allows for more effective communication. It is one of the best public speaking tricks that some of the best orators make. By making effective, well-timed pauses when you speak, you draw the listener in. This can be extremely effective for appearing more confident and self-assured when communicating.
3) Nod Your Head “Yes”
This tip is great for appearing to be, and actually demonstrating that you are a great listener, which is really what effective communication is all about. By regularly nodding your head “yes” when the person you are talking to is speaking, you signify that you are listening to what they are saying and also that you are in agreement with their position.
4) Keep Feet Apart and Knees Slightly Bent
By keeping your feet apart and slightly bent, you are in a very comfortable and natural stance. This stance shows that you are comfortable being yourself and comfortable communicating to the person you are talking to. It subconsciously also allows you to let your guard down and by doing so allows the other person to let theirs down as well.
Use these 4 tips wisely. Next time you find yourself in conversation with someone, remember these techniques and you will find that you are communicating and connecting with that person so much more effectively.
What other body language tips can you think of? Do you have any great secrets that are really effective for eliciting confidence, comfort, and contentment? Please share any great ideas you have!
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