The ones that are hardest to get are the ones that are most rewarding when you finally do get them. These are the girls who take forever to respond to your texts, change plans on you several times, stop answering your texts, and even stop talking to you for weeks at a time. Just know you are not alone. They do this to everyone, and most guys don’t know how to handle them . . . But I do!
First you must recognize that she may in fact be very busy and have a lot on her plate at the time; i.e. she may be working a ton of hours more at work, she may be getting over her boyfriend whom she recently broke up with, she may be feeling awful lately with some kind of illness, it may be her time of month were she is just moody and doesn’t want to talk to you.
Just like there are days where you don’t feel like going out, and hanging out with girls, there are certainly many days where she feels the same. And it’s just easier for her to not answer your text or your Facebook message, than to explain that she doesn’t feel like talking to guys that day. So don’t get too upset when she doesn’t immediately reply, or if she never replies for that matter. You have to realize that not every girl is going to like you.
The following three strategies are the perfect guide for getting women to respond when all hope is lost. They’re the best-known techniques for dealing with the conundrum of what to do if she doesn’t text back!
Something to try though that has historically worked pretty well for reeling her back in if she doesn’t reply back to a text message is to make a joke out of it. I got this from a close friend of mine who was very clever with his text game. If a girl didn’t answer him, and he was texting her about some plans or asking her a question, after about an hour or so, after he knew she saw it and was just ignoring it, he would say something as simple as “K sounds good lol”. This, or something like “Alright hun that sounds awesome lol”. A simple text like that, calls her out in a funny way, and shows that it’s not really a big deal to you that she didn’t answer, but that it’s more amusing to you. A lot of the time, a girl will see this, and laugh. And she will usually text back, and either apologize for not texting, or laugh and answer the question from earlier. It’s very simple, but effective.
Another thing that works well, if a girl either stops answering texts, or is taking forever and you don’t know if she is going to reply back, is to call her! That’s right, like the old days, before anyone ever knew what a text message was; use the call feature!
Summon your deep inner, manly voice, and call her up!
Two things can either happen. She can either pick up the phone, which would obviously solve your problem (though not really that likely), or more probably, you will get her voicemail, and you will leave her a cool message. This is very important, you must leave her a fun, exciting, and powerful voicemail, not some lame, weak-hearted voicemail about why she is not answering you. Say something like “What’s up kiddo! I was just driving so I couldn’t text…but yeah, I just saw the funniest thing ever that reminded me of you. Let me know when get this; you’re going to laugh your ass off, later!” Now this of course, is not applicable to every scenario, but you get the message. Something that engages her, something that could be funny if done correctly, and something that is not needy.
The final thing, and usually the last resort, depending on if you use it before the voicemail technique or not, is to challenge her to hang out with you. This is done via text. And this is done usually after she has flaked on you, or if you just haven’t been able to get together for one reason or another after trying for some time. What you do is send a re-initiating text message like “Sup sweetheart…Are you gonna’ hang out this week or are you gonna keep being a dink”. Now, before you laugh, this is actually more intricate than meets the eye. It does a few things all at once.
For one, it obviously calls her out on not being able to hang out with you yet. For two, it most likely offends her in a comical, teasing way, and shows her that you’re not afraid to say something like this to her. But thirdly, and most importantly, it challenges her and almost dares her to reply back to prove to you that she’s not a “dink,” or whatever inflammatory synonym you can replace this with; like a stiff, a square, a loser, a bum – personally I like to use the word “dink” because it’s the funniest to me.
Texts like these are great for qualifying a woman, and getting her to prove that she isn’t as bad as she’s been acting. That she is cool enough to hang out with you, and will do so just to prove it to you.
That’s it. Follow this guide next time a woman doesn’t text back and you will see much more success in the future! Also sign up for my kickass Elite Man Newsletter and get my brand-new 41 Rules To Dating Mastery ebook completely free!
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