The following post is a guest contribution by top dating coach and past Elite Man Magazine contributor Hunt Ethridge.
Kumail Nanjiani, the Pakistani-born comedian currently starring in Silicon Valley gave a great commencement speech at his alma mater, Grinnell College. In it he implores, “Have sex with an immigrant. We’re going through a tough time right now, and it would just be really great for morale.”
While this was meant as a joke, it got me thinking that even better than just having sex with one, MARRY one! My wife is from Puerto Rico and though she’s an American citizen, she’s from a completely different culture with different native language. And as Frost said, “That has made all the difference.”
I gathered together some experts in the field to discuss why it’s a great idea to date outside your country or language.
It’s very easy to zone out when talking to someone new or at least not be fully engaged. Especially when you know a lot about where they’re from. Two people that speak different languages, however, get to truly be in the moment when chatting.
“When dating someone from your culture who speaks the same language, often people still don’t understand each other. They may not pay attention and don’t make enough effort to actually listen to and understand the person in front of them. When you date someone who speaks another language, if the chemistry is there, you try your best to understand them, using your whole body and full specter of emotions to express your thoughts. When you date internationally, you can choose the best from each culture and bring it into your relationship, adding new colors and flavors!” – Svetlana Mukha, – international award winning matchmaker and dating coach at diolli.com
In today’s world of globalization, especially in big cities, sticking with your own “tribe” is not only more difficult but it doesn’t help inform you about the world at large.
“International online dating is a useful, global, smart and urban approach to dating. Geographical or communicational restrictions are no longer applicable. International online dating is an instrument that takes the choices people have finding their ideal partner from finite to infinite.Finding love remains to be a top priority for most people, so why not broaden your horizons to make life as rewarding, content and fulfilled as possible.” says Anita Covic , Dating Specialist for AnastasiaDate.com.
Yes, sometimes it’s annoying that we’re expected to work and be reachable by phone and email no matter where we are. However, it also gives us the ability to do our work anywhere. As more businesses embrace telecommuting, the world can be your office! And this of course opens up the possibilities to meeting so many different people.
Arlene Vasquez, a matchmaker and coach explains, “These days so many companies have embraced telecommuting, which is fantastic for singles who are open to finding love anywhere in the world. Having the ability to work from a laptop and an internet connection, singles now have a larger pool of potential pairings especially when they’re willing to venture outside of their neighborhoods. Statistically, the odds of finding someone compatible are much higher than dating only nearby.
As a matchmaker, it’s now more prevalent to collaborate with other matchmakers in different countries. We’re able to match our clients, provided that we focus on some key ingredients for matching couples: core values, personalities, similar life goals and of course physical criteria.”
The most interesting (and in my opinion, the best) people in the world are the ones that are open to, and search out, new experiences and learning opportunities. These are the people that will become our next international leaders!
“Online dating continues to be one of the top ways to screen potential dates and to find a partner with similar interests. Adding the international option into the mix, only widens the dating pool options and it is seen as culturally exciting!” According to Inna Kolchina, Project Manager for AsianDate.com, “U.S men especially are willing to take a leap of faith and experience new and exciting experiences with singles from another country. Of these men, 66% find it’s a way to date new and different types of women and 58% felt it was a good reason to travel or to travel more frequently.”
So there you have it, instead of searching out the same thing you have always been looking for, take a chance and try something different. I think you’ll find it “una gran oportunidad para encontraramor!”