If I asked you if you wanted to build more muscle or get leaner would you say yes? I would guess you would! But… do your align your lifestyle with your goals? Ask anyone on the street if they’d like to look better, feel better, or be healthier, and 90% of people will say “Yes, but…”. There is very little debate on whether or not, in a perfect world, people want to be healthier, perform better, and/or look better than they currently do.
It’s the “but…” that’s the issue. It’s the excuse that comes after the “Yes” where the problems are occurring. The true reason most people aren’t where they want to be in regards to fitness is not specifically because they are lazy, don’t have time, too overwhelmed, or are unsure of what to do in the gym.
While those are all parts of the overall problem, the biggest issue that the majority of people today face is the misalignment of their lifestyle and goals. In other words, on one end of the spectrum people have some sort of goal and on the other side is their daily lifestyle.
Whether it’s about getting stronger, building more muscle, or getting ripped for summer, your lifestyle has to reflect your goal(s).
The problem is that most people who are not where they want to be in life are not living with their goals in mind. This can sound like such a simple concept, yet I meet so many people who are completely unaware that the way they are living their life will never get them to their goals. As a result of that, many become discouraged and feel as if their goals are impossible. The truth is that if your lifestyle doesn’t live up with your goals, your goals are impossible. But if you fix that alignment and make your lifestyle run in parallel to your goals, you can do anything you want.
Now, it’s one thing to preach about having a good lifestyle and another to help create it. I’m a huge fan of information that I can take action on right away.
With that said, let’s walk through an exercise right now to illustrate how to align your lifestyle with your goals.
Part 1: Daily Activities
Use yourself as an example and only look at what you do on a daily basis. Write down the activities you did in the last week. Seriously, create a list right now!
Last week I:
The key is to be honest and write down everything you did. If you can’t remember a whole week out, write down what you did over the last day or two. Don’t cheat by only writing down the things you think were “good” either. Write down everything you did and then move to Part 2.
Part 2: Goals
Now, write down the goals you have. If you’re reading this article you probably have some goals that you want to eventually achieve. Maybe you want to lift heavier weights, build more muscle size, be faster, etc… Whatever they are, write them down in front of you and really think about them. Know how you’ll feel when you achieve them, understand (if you don’t already) what it will take to achieve them. Really think about that and make sure you truly understand what you’ll need to do and what sacrifices you may have to make.
The reason you want to imagine how you’ll feel when you achieve your goal is so you can remember that feeling whenever you hit an obstacle. Throughout life, your will to succeed will often be tested. Being able to remind yourself how good you’ll feel when you achieve your goal will help you stay the course. If your goal is to build muscle, for example, imagine having the body you’ve always dreamed of and how it’ll make you feel. That will help you push through no matter what.
Part 3: Putting It Together
Finally, compare your daily activities to your goals and how you’ll need to achieve them. Do they match up? If you continue living the way you do, do you see yourself actually achieving your goals?
Take the list of daily activities you made and put a check-mark next to any of the activities that got you closer to your goal.
This next part is important…
Stop doing whatever doesn’t have a check next to it. Stop doing them because they are costing you time and attention without getting you closer to your goals. The more things you do that are unrelated to your goals, the less likely it is that you’ll ever reach them.
For example, if you’re ultimate goal is to get shredded, partying and drinking every weekend is not going to get you there. In fact, it will actually stop you from getting there.
If you’re trying to gain muscle, but you miss workouts and aren’t consistent with your nutrition, the chances of you actually attaining that goal are slim.
For many people there’s a disconnect between what they want and what they spend their time on. When it’s all said and done, what you will achieve in life is 100% dependent on what you do every single day. If you want to change the way you look but have no idea what or how much you’re currently eating, start counting your macros. If you want to lift heavier but are not tracking what you currently lift and how often, start recording your workouts in a notebook. Better yet, do both!
There are three things you need to know in order to reach your unique definition of success:
- What your goals are.
- What you currently spend time and attention on each day.
- What you need to spend time and attention on each day to achieve your goals.
Once you figure out those three things, it’s all about execution and taking action. If you can start spending more time on things that will get you closer to your goals and less on things that won’t, you will have truly aligned your lifestyle to your goals and success will be inevitable. Imagine that!