There are a million things us guys can think of that annoys us about our women. But just like they have their faults, so do we. If you don’t believe me, just check out this list of the 10 things that men should immediately stop doing!
With that said, women are amazing and they complete us guys! Without them we’d be lost. Without them we’d be lonely. Without them we wouldn’t be whole. It’s true, we need women to make our lives worth living…
But just like guys can fix things and work on themselves, so can women. They sometimes do a lot of frustrating and irritating things which men can’t stand. Here is succinct list of those things:
1) Talking about other men
We hate this! Look, we know there are other guys on the planet. We know we are not the only ones you find attractive – just like you are not the only woman we find attractive. We get that! But please try to refrain from talking about how “sexy” or “handsome” or “hot” or otherwise attractive you think other guys are. Tell your girlfriends this when you’re with them; we don’t want to hear it! Call us selfish but we want to feel like we are the only men you desire when you’re with us!
2) Talking badly about other women
It never looks good for anyone to talk badly about someone else. There’s just something about it that rubs people the wrong way. Perhaps it makes them look insecure, tactless, or even cruel. Whatever emotion it elicits, it’s usually not an endearing one.
Listen to the old adage – if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. At least at first, when a woman’s still getting to know a man, she should keep the callous remarks about other women to a minimum.
3) Complaining about not having enough time
This one never ceases to drive men crazy! Men always feel like women complain about not spending enough time together. Whether true or not it’s an issue in a lot of relationships. If you’re a woman try to understand where the man is coming from on this. Rather than “complain” about your time together, talk to him and decide what works best for both of you. Most of the time, you can come to a happy medium. This works much better than constantly bickering about the topic.
4) Being an emotional roller-coaster
There are few things that guys ask for in a steady partner, but one of them is to be emotionally stable. That’s it. As long as you’re not a complete off-the-wall lunatic, we can pretty much put up with and adapt to your needs and personality. With that said, a deal-breaker is being an emotional roller-coaster. Nobody wants a woman who is euphoric one minute and hectic the next. We want smooth. Try your best to be smooth and we’ll love you for it!
5) Texting other people when she’s with you
Respect is such a huge part of being together. As a dating coach I advise students to call women out on texting other people when she is with you. Why? Because it’s disrespectful in my opinion. If she agrees to go on a date with you, you’ve dedicated X-number of hours to being with her. You’ve prepared and donated your time specifically for her. At the very least she should do the same and afford you her time, in full, to give back! (Obviously if there’s some sort of emergency that’s different. But texting her friends or checking her Facebook is rude.) I don’t think that’s too much to ask for.
6) Talking about their ex
Nobody wants to hear ex-stories. They are your ex for a reason. Guys hate having to hear about other men, especially other men who you’ve been with! We don’t enjoy talking about your ex at all, and if, for some reason, ex’s come up in conversation, try your best to switch topics fast. These chats never end well.
7) Not listening (really listening) when you talk to her
As men we love to think we are funny, entertaining, and exciting to listen to. Even if we’re totally boring or lame! If you like us, do your best to really listen to what we have to say. Nothing frustrates us more than when we are sharing some sort of anecdote and we can tell our lady is not really listening to a word we’re saying. She may be nodding her head or looking at us but we know if she’s not fully engaged, and this is unbelievably annoying.
8) Never suggesting things
Guys usually have to lead women. This is just the natural dynamic of most relationships. That’s okay. We have no problem doing this. In fact we enjoy it for the most part. We love being the leader of the relationship and feeling powerful. But once in a while, we’d love to let women decide things. We’d love to take the responsibility off our back and get some help. When we ask for suggestions on things from time to time, please give them to us! We love help and we don’t mind listening to your input, it takes the pressure off us.
9) Not allowing men to go out with friends
Guys need time to be guys. We need certain allotted days to act like cavemen and hang out with other cavemen. It keeps us sane. We mean no harm nor mar. We just want to have some time to hang with friends and bond. For the love of God, please allow this small request!
10) Not wanting to try or do new things
At the end of the day we all love something novel. It makes life exciting. The worst thing in life is doing the same thing every single day. It’s worse than death. It’s like living in hell. Nothing new, nothing exciting, nothing different. Really, all we want is to try different things from time to time. Whether that’s traveling to a new place, taking a class, trying new food, exploring sexual desires, or simply getting out of the house for the day. New equals happy. Be willing to try new things out and you will always find happy men!
Please take this list with a grain-of-salt. As a guy, like I said, we have a million things that we could definitely improve on as well. We are not perfect by any stretch of the imagination! So while I list 10 things that women can certainly improve on, I know there are things I must do as well. This list is not a criticism, but more a request. It’s a critique of a lot of common complaints that men bring to my attention about the women in their lives. If women can fix even a few of these things, so many men would be happier! Take an honest look at yourself and decide if there is anything you can reasonably change to appease some of these men. If so, try them now!